The Opening Moments

The first few seconds of a therapy session can lay the foundation for the entire relationship. I’ve had my share of missteps—like the time I tried a witty opening question that landed as judgmental, leaving me to rebuild trust from scratch.

Over time, I’ve refined my approach:

When a new client enters, I offer a warm, genuine smile—one that feels real, not forced. It’s a quiet signal: “I’m here, and I’m human, just like you.” Eye contact is a delicate balance. Too much feels like a stare-down; too little, and I risk seeming disengaged. I strive for a natural, inviting gaze that conveys presence without intensity. My introduction is straightforward: “Hello, I’m [My Name]. It’s great to meet you.” I follow up by ensuring their comfort—asking about seating, the room’s temperature, or anything else to help them feel at ease.

Above all, I’ve learned that authenticity trumps polish. Clients don’t need a flawless therapist; they need someone real, ready to join them on their journey.

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Reflections on Growth: The Art of Self-Review in Therapy

The most vital conversation I have after a session isn’t with a client—it’s with myself. Once the door closes, I pause, breathe, and dive into a mental replay of the session. This isn’t about self-criticism; it’s about growth. What connected? What felt off? Did I miss a subtle cue?I jot down observations like: “Client tensed up when we touched on their work—approach more gently next time.” Or, “They seemed uneasy with the handshake greeting; try a softer welcome for anxious clients.” I also lean on colleagues for perspective: “Can we chat? Today’s session left me with some questions.” Seeking supervision isn’t a flaw—it’s a strength. We’re all lifelong learners. Some first sessions flow effortlessly. Others feel clunky. Sometimes, I walk away thinking, “I could’ve done that better.” That’s not failure—it’s fuel for improvement. And here’s a key takeaway: if a client doesn’t return after the first session, don’t take it personally. Their readiness, timing, or fit with you might not align, and that’s okay. It’s about their journey, not your scorecard. The aim isn’t flawless sessions—it’s steady growth. Each time, I strive to show up a bit more attuned, a bit more skilled, a bit more human. Your training and techniques are crucial, but what matters most is your humanity—the ability to see the person across from you as a fellow traveler, not a puzzle to solve. Take a deep breath. Trust the process. Trust yourself.

You’re on the right path.